🌿 In the Eyes of the Beholder

Seeing Yourself Through the Right Lens

While sitting here watching YouTube, I found myself deeply appalled by what I was seeing — famous celebrities, people we once admired weekly on television, altering their appearance beyond recognition.

We’ve watched them play roles, perform on stages, and display a kind of perfection that so many try to imitate. And somewhere along the way, we began to chase those same illusions.

We admire celebrities, musicians, and movie stars who portray fictitious characters — and not only them, but we often encourage our children to emulate athletes, singers, and influencers.

As parents, sometimes unknowingly, we indoctrinate our kids with a false sense of identity — pushing them to become someone they were never created to be.

Now, don’t get me wrong — there’s nothing wrong with having role models. But when admiration turns into idolatry, when we project those expectations onto our children, we create confusion and insecurity in their sense of self.

Children who can’t live up to those illusions often suffer from low self-esteem, low self-worth, and a lack of confidence — all because they’re trying to live someone else’s story instead of discovering their own.

Let’s stop planting those false ideals in our children. Instead, give them room to grow, explore, and discover who God has destined them to be.

Support their God-given identity and help guide them back when they lose their way — not by forcing them to fit a mold, but by encouraging them to walk in purpose.

👩🏽‍🦳 For the Adults Struggling with the Mirror

Now, let’s be honest — this message isn’t just for our kids. It’s for us, too.

For the adults who are quietly wrestling with the reality of aging.

As time passes, our bodies change. We see wrinkles, sagging skin, gray hairs, age spots, weight gain, and hair loss. I tell my patients all the time, “Age gracefully — you can’t stop the process.” But truth be told, I’ve struggled with it too. Real talk.

We compare ourselves to the younger generation — and before long, we start wishing we could lift this, tuck that, or maybe take a little something to “fix” what’s changed.

Watching those YouTube videos of celebrities whose surgeries went wrong was sobering. Many of them, in pursuit of youth, altered their faces so much that they became unrecognizable — and most regretted it.

Why? Because they weren’t only chasing beauty; they were chasing acceptance.

They were trying to stay relevant in a world obsessed with the outward — forgetting that true beauty can’t be bought, filtered, or frozen in time.

✨ The Truth About the Beholder

The phrase “In the eyes of the beholder” means that beauty, value, or worth is subjective — it depends on who’s looking. What one person finds beautiful or meaningful, another might not.

But from a spiritual perspective, this phrase reaches far deeper.

“While people look at the outward appearance, the Lord looks at the heart.” — 1 Samuel 16:7

That means what matters most isn’t how others see you, but how God sees you — through eyes of love, purpose, and divine design.

We spend so much energy trying to be seen, validated, and accepted by others, when the only eyes that truly matter are God’s. He sees beyond the surface — beyond scars, wrinkles, mistakes, and labels — and calls you beautiful, chosen, and redeemed.

🌿 Seeing Yourself Through the Right Lens

When you look in the mirror, what do you really see?

Most of us glance quickly, noticing our flaws or the things we wish we could change. But what if the reflection staring back at you isn’t the full picture?

What if God sees something far more radiant — something divine — beyond what the natural eye perceives?

The world teaches us to view beauty and worth through filtered lenses — shaped by opinions, perfection, and comparison.

But the truth is, your value was never meant to be defined by the world’s standard.

“Man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” — 1 Samuel 16:7

God focuses on who you are — your compassion, your perseverance, your faith, your willingness to love.

So today, I invite you to see yourself through the right lens — the one shaped by the eyes of your Creator.

💫 When God Looks at You:

• He doesn’t see failure — He sees potential.

• He doesn’t see mistakes — He sees mercy and redemption.

• He doesn’t see weakness — He sees strength made perfect through grace.

The enemy loves to distort our reflection — to convince us we are unworthy, unqualified, or unseen.

But God’s reflection of you says:

“You are fearfully and wonderfully made.” — Psalm 139:14

You are not flawed — you’re a masterpiece in progress.

🌼 How to See Yourself the Way God Does:

1. Renew your vision through prayer.

   
   

   Ask daily, “Lord, help me see myself the way You see me.”

2. Silence the wrong voices.

   
   

   Not every opinion belongs in your reflection.

3. Speak life over yourself.

   
   

   Words create worlds — speak what God says about you.

4. Walk in confidence, not comparison.

   
   

   You don’t need to mirror anyone else. You are enough.

💖 Closing Thought

When you begin to see yourself through the eyes of the Beholder, you walk differently — not in insecurity, but in identity.

You stand taller, smile deeper, and move with purpose because you finally realize:

“God doesn’t make mistakes — He makes miracles.”

You are His reflection.

You are His design.

You are His beloved.